When people hear that we are expecting a child, they are always very happy for us, which is nice. Then they ask, “boy or girl?” To which we reply, we don’t know. Then, inevitably people go, “Oh, you want a surprise!” Um. No. I think the stress and intensity of the birthing experience will be plenty without needing an extra bonus surprise.
We are NOT doing it for the surprise factor. Here is our motivation for not finding out the sex of the kid:
Basically, it doesn’t matter to us what the sex is. We’ll find out when we find out.
Whew. Not that complicated, is it? I mean, people have been having babies for tens of thousands of years without knowing the sex of the child before it is born. Do we need to start filling our house with pink tutus or monster truck toys before the kid is even born?
I don’t blame people for asking about the sex of the kid and then the “surprise” comment. I would have done exactly the same thing in their shoes a year ago. But now as an expectant parent, I have a different perspective. Is that a surprise?