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Is it a boy, a girl, a “surprise”, or none of the above?

June 13th, 2011 · 2 Comments · personal meanderings, Uncategorized

boy, girl, surprise, or none of the above

When people hear that we are expecting a child, they are always very happy for us, which is nice. Then they ask, “boy or girl?” To which we reply, we don’t know. Then, inevitably people go, “Oh, you want a surprise!” Um. No. I think the stress and intensity of the birthing experience will be plenty without needing an extra bonus surprise.

We are NOT doing it for the surprise factor. Here is our motivation for not finding out the sex of the kid:

Basically, it doesn’t matter to us what the sex is. We’ll find out when we find out.

Whew. Not that complicated, is it? I mean, people have been having babies for tens of thousands of years without knowing the sex of the child before it is born. Do we need to start filling our house with pink tutus or monster truck toys before the kid is even born?

I don’t blame people for asking about the sex of the kid and then the “surprise” comment. I would have done exactly the same thing in their shoes a year ago. But now as an expectant parent, I have a different perspective. Is that a surprise?


2 responses so far ↓

  • 1 Miss Mia // Jun 13, 2011 at 2:29 pm

    We wanted to know the sex when we were having kids, just because we were too lazy to have to go through the motions of setting up a room (pinkanize or blueanize) after the baby was born. We also let everyone know the name, again so that we could get used to the whole idea of having a little one running around. Telling people the name and referring to the baby by it’s name made is so much more real to us.
    As for you guys, it is my belief that you should do what make you most comfortable. Either way, it’s your child being born, and the sex won’t matter for the welcome and love it will receive right?

  • 2 jonny Goldstein // Jun 13, 2011 at 3:49 pm

    Sure, each to their own. I think people are trying to get a preview of the kid so they can start thinking about the child more concretely. The interesting thing to me is how does knowing the sex alter the way I would think about our child?